Sep 29

Sep 29 Would you delete social media for your partner? 1,696 people weigh in

If your partner asked you to delete your social media (Instagram, TikTok, Snapchat, etc.), would you do it?

Someone from our Instagram community asked me to poll this question. At first, it sounded extreme… I thought about someone asking me to delete my social media. My first thought was: he must be insecure, why else would he ask me to do something like that. But then i started thinking about how many issues social media has caused within relationships

I asked 1,600+ men and women if they would delete their instagram if their partner askd them, and this is what they said:

The data from our community genuinely shocked me: 61% said yes, they would delete it, and 39% said no. I was not expecting the majority of people to say yes. But the more I thought about it, the more it made sense.

Social media has changed the entire landscape of relationships. It gives us exposure and access to people we may have otherwise NEVER crossed paths with: exes, new crushes, and endless options. With that access comes temptation, comparison, and sometimes mistrust.

I’ve seen and heard the stories:

Partners fighting over liking risqué photos.
Adding new people while on a trip or during a night out.
DM conversations that start innocent but cross boundaries.

Even the smallest gestures (liking a story), can carry double meanings. For one person, it’s nothing more than a tap, an easy way to acknowledge a post. For another, it feels like a breadcrumb, a way of keeping tabs, or a subtle signal of interest.

Does that harm us? By knowing there are always options out there; people watching, liking, messaging, do we start to believe the grass is greener elsewhere? Does it make us less willing to water the grass at home because we know there’s always “another” just a tap away?

So should you delete your social media for love?

I don’t know… 😂! Is holding onto your Instagram or other social accounts worth constant friction in your relationship? Or is deleting it an unfair expectation that crosses into control? Some people see deleting social media as an act of commitment. Others see it as a red flag, a sign of control and insecurity. Maybe the real question isn’t “Would you delete it?” but “Why are they asking you to?”

If it’s rooted in insecurity, that’s one conversation. If it’s because social media has already caused cracks in trust, that’s another. Either way, it forces us to confront how much social media really belongs in our relationships, and how much it takes away.

And of course, it’s extremely circumstantial. If you or your partner rely on social media for business, marketing, or income, the conversation becomes a lot more nuanced. Deleting it isn’t just about boundaries in a relationship, it could mean sacrificing your career.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this topic. Let me know down below in the comment section.

Thank you to everyone who voted!

xX,
Stephanie