Sex Ed for Men, from Women

Sep 28

Sep 28 Sex Tips for Men Pt. 1

If you follow me on Instagram, you know I absolutely love bringing awareness to underrated and taboo topics. This article isn’t going to be any different. It’s filled with questions from men and answers from women from our Instagram community.

To any family member/ family friend who may be reading this, know that I did not choose this path nor these questions, the collective chose it/them for me. So please understand that I am simply just the liaison here - lol.

Let’s dig right into it, shall we?

Do women like the lights on, off or dimmed during sex?

There is something so intimate about a dimly lit room/ environment… complexions and imperfections become a little smoother while defining all the right areas. Like myself, the majority of women prefer the lights to be dimmed in the bedroom. Why? Because we feel sexier that way. FYI: When we feel sexy and comfortable, we’re more likely to open up in more ways than just one.

Do women like sex toys in the bedroom?

Did you know that 75% of women either CANNOT or RARELY achieve an orgasm without some sort of clitoral stimulation? Only 54 out of 215 women (25%) said they are able to orgasm through regular penetration. This is why sex toys are a godsend, fellas. They’re fun, they help her feel good and they really just spice things up. 10/10 recommend if you’re comfortable enough to ask/ chat about it with your partner.

Do women enjoy giving head?

Just a fun lil’ fact. Not much else to it. It really is a like or dislike, but I assume it’s bearable for those who dislike it depending on how much they like/ love you (lol).

What thrusting speed do women like during sex?

The majority of women (76%) prefer a mix of slow, medium and fast.

Want to learn a sure way of knowing exactly what your partner wants? Be like Tupac and ask, “HOW DO U WANT IT?” Ask for guidance— ask if what you’re doing feels good to her or if x feels better, ask what her favorite positions are, ask what she likes best— ASK. These sort of questions build intimacy/passion. Be vocal, assertive and confident, us ladies LOVE that. And we also love when you genuinely care about wanting to making us feel good.

How many women are really interested in a threesome?

Let’s talk probability here. There’s a 22% chance a girl (who follows me on Instagram) would be down for a threesome. And I only say ‘who follows me on Instagram’ because that’s where these votes came from, not because I, myself, am down/ not down for a threesome.

Do women like when sex lasts longer than 1 hour?

Contrary to pornography and blue pill promises, NO, the majority of women DO NOT want sex to last close to or longer than one hour unless you’re helping her achieve multiple orgasms (which is a difficult task).

Do women like to have sex in public locations? (Beach, car, golf courses, etc…)

I meannn… who doesn’t love a little spontaneity?! The thrill of doing something you know you probably shouldn’t be doing but it just… feels so good, doesn’t it? Change things up to spice things up. Plus… 77% of women are open to this sort of risqué behavior. That means there’s a 77% you may actually score a hole in one if you take your partner golfing with you. 😉

Do women want more kissing involved during sex?

On behalf of 169 women, I’d like to let you know that yes, we do want to be kissed more. It shows you’re into us and it signals that you are enjoying yourself — and that’s something we really want to know. When we’re able to gauge how much you’re enjoying yourself, it makes us more comfortable and confident during intimacy with you AND we enjoy the sexperience 😉even more.

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Thank you to every man who asked a question and to every woman who voted in response! You all make this SO fun and I’m honored you trust me with gathering and delivering this information!

xX Stephanie